Leaving a toxic relationship can be tough, but breaking up with someone we love can be even tougher. If you’ve recently lost the connection with your soon-to-be-ex, it’s important to know how to break up with them the right way.
Here are some tips to help you break up with someone in a kind and respectful manner:
- Plan It Through
Break-ups should never be spur-of-the-moment. Be considerate of their time, location, and feelings. You wouldn’t want to break-up with them outside of their office, 30 minutes into their lunch break, right?
- Know What To Say
When you get caught up in the moment, you might fumble your words or forget what you wanted to say. Avoid this altogether by approaching the situation with a list of points you want to make. Just remember to deliver these kindly.
- Do It In Person
We know that texting and calling can take away the awkwardness of difficult conversations. Still, your break-up shouldn’t rely on any sort of technology. Talking face-to-face shows respect to your partner and allows for better communication.
- Be Honest
Your partner needs to know the exact reasons why you’re breaking up. It will help them grapple with the break-up as well as understand where things went wrong (so they can be better partners in their future relationships).
- Expect The Unexpected
It’s impossible to decipher how your partner will react to your break-up. They might feel the exact same way, or they might be caught off guard. To avoid any surprises, prepare yourself for a range of reactions and how you want to respond to each of them.
- Don’t Decide On Friendship
Guess what? Break-ups don’t always need to end up in friendship. We know you really care about your soon-to-be-ex, but jumping straight into a platonic relationship can make your break-up much harder. Take as much time as you need, avoid reaching out, and set boundaries if needed!
- Accept That It’s Over
Once you’re broken up, accept it. We know it’s not the easiest thing to do, but with the right amount of time and distance, you’ll feel better in no time. Commit to staying broken up, and listen to your gut-feelings and your soon-to-be-ex’s emotions to find the best way to move on – even if it means cutting off all communication. Focus on yourself, go out with friends, and put yourself out there. Trust us, it’ll be OK.