Wooing or Expulsion, the India Version

by Nomadic Chick on November 22, 2010

Oxen in India

My first impressions of Mumbai were the smells.

Pools of urine.  Dung.  Rotting fruit.  Enticing sandalwood clinging heavily to a sari as its owner swept past me, her slim hips swaying timidly against gold threading and pomegranate fabric.

Even dust had a scent.  Choking and harsh, clinging to the throat for hours on end.

Flora and fauna caught my eye next.  Most definitely tropical. Palm trees or vibrant flowers bursting with colors.  Everything that you do not find in cold, dead places up North.

The third was the dilapidated state of the buildings, or maybe it was just the disarray of them.

Some are built to code and perfection, beacons of Indian engineering, while others are crumbled, rebar exposed and accusatory.  You didn’t finish me.

What might be the most interesting is the staggering amount of rubble along the side of the roads.  Large chunks of concrete, dropped to the earth by Shiva’s wrath.  Lord Shiva, the destroyer of worlds, clearly leaves his mark.

Besides concrete, garbage, debris, objects you wouldn’t imagine belong there, somehow do.

Burning garbage may not be sanctioned by law or environmental groups, but it’s a practice still done on a regular basis.

And the driving.  I exaggerated in my last post about driving rules.  There are some.

The common way to drive is pass other vehicles, no matter what they are.  Large trucks, motorcycles, scooters, autorickshaw, economy cars… you name it.  The object is pass them by driving straight into oncoming traffic and leaning on the horn to “alert” someone you’re passing and there’s nothing you can do about it.  Then with cat-like reflexes you steer back into your own lane, narrowly missing a head on collision.

I have yet to witness an accident.

Finally, the men.  It was mid-morning on a Friday and a significant amount of men were present.  Constructing buildings, driving all the cars, rickshaws, taxis, walking or purchasing.  Eventually more women emergeed, but only smatterings.  With some gains that India has made in feminist circles, Mumbai feels very male dominated.  Can’t speak for the rest of India or even Mumbai, having only seen a fraction of its riches or truths.

It reminded me of a trip to Turkey.  A country for men and brotherhood.  Women were an afterthought in public life.  I stand out like an exclamation mark in a sea of periods.

It’s a land operating by their own rules, none that I can recognize or process yet.  Even within the chaos, more disorder can jolt the foreigner.   A pair of oxen chilling on an ordinary sidewalk, a sight unheard of where I hail from.

There is also an ease and openness that I’m still grasping.  People do what they do, and there lacks any outward judgement on it.

I am in Maharashtra state, a significant swath in India’s layered history, well known for some extraordinary cave temples and monasteries.  Maharashtra served as a trade route between north and south India.

The landscape is painted with mountain ranges and abandoned forts are located further inland.  Level ground and fresh water supplied by the might Western Ghats were sound spots to defend against large armies.

For the first few days, I felt my own emotional fort undergoing construction.  Here I am amid  the sounds, smells and visual explosions, wondering why I even came.

Seeking some order in the chaos?  Love or rejection might be the key.

3 months of volunteering won’t entail hopping jovially to tourist hot spots or backpacker beach parties, it will be work, a sort of meditation.

An early verdict is India is not so much enjoyed, but experienced.

I’m steadily hoping the ‘why’ becomes apparent.

Have you ever found yourself traveling somewhere, only to land and wonder what brought you in the first place?

Editor’s note: I will be updating with tips or stories on a weekly basis during my 3- month volunteer stay in Savarsai, India.  Thanks for reading!

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Nomadic Chick December 10, 2010 at 7:14 am

@Stephen – Thanks! Accessing my honest feelings was easy, expressing it was hard. Somehow I did. :)

Stephen December 8, 2010 at 12:18 pm

Great, honest, realistic descriptions of India without being judgmental. Nice post.

Nomadic Chick December 3, 2010 at 1:52 am

@Lorna – Complete and utter overload. And it doesn’t relent. :)

Lorna - the roamantics November 29, 2010 at 12:56 am

wow Jeannie! india is on my top 5 list of next places to go, but what i’ve heard (and sounds like you’re experiencing too) is that it is sensory overload. other, hard-core travelers i’ve met have said it takes a month to get acclimated, and that you can’t really give it a fair shot in less than that. so amazing that you’re there for 3 months! will definitely be looking forward to reading about how you feel as the time goes on. and as for your final question- YES! feel that way every time i visit my family in the desert and am hoping that one day i can learn to love it :)

Nomadic Chick November 29, 2010 at 12:24 am

@Laura – I think they hide making themselves gorgeous in Istanbul and pull out the stops on the club scene. :) Thanks for your really nice comment!

Nomadic Chick November 29, 2010 at 12:22 am

@Renee in BC – Funny how transformation is undertaken in such a clueless fashion (the self going through the change), and meanwhile we complain along the way. :)

Nomadic Chick November 29, 2010 at 12:20 am

@Erica – Haha.. I’m back on my one day right now. :)

I am just as clueless as you on what will happen during my volunteer stint.

Nomadic Chick November 29, 2010 at 12:18 am

@Sabina – What seems to be the case is women and men have very defined roles in India. Women have power over the household and what goes on there, while men tackle the outside world. I’ve seen a few women working in public roles, but it’s not often or prevalent in my current observations. It is the culture for sure, and my comment about feminism is misplaced. It is, what it is. As a traveler, it’s jarring because I feel like an interloper as it is, but the added factor of gender is another layer to it.

Nomadic Chick November 29, 2010 at 12:13 am

@Earl – The confusion and jarring inputs at 110% is very difficult to describe here. You are an adventurous bloke, my friend. India, Syria.. what’s next?

Nomadic Chick November 29, 2010 at 12:11 am

@Laurel @Expat in Germany – Ha! And that’s the crux. If a place is challenging, does that besmirch its place on a top ten list? I’m finding that out now.

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